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Permanent Residency. . . But now what?

15 Apr

So a week ago myself and Mark became permanent residents of Australia. But now what? I guess because the last 6 months have been consumed with waiting I’ve felt a little lost this week. Getting the visa felt so surreal. It was all we talked about. The application process was so drawn out, police checks from Ireland and Australia, medicals and wanting to know every detail about you and your family not to mention the cost! People would ask if we were planning to stay in Australia for good. We’d just explain that we had applied for residency and we’d see how that goes. In a sense it bought me some time, I didn’t have to commit to anything, there was a chance we wouldn’t get the visa. But now we have it I guess we have to make some serious decisions about our future. 

I won’t lie, my heart aches for Ireland, for my family, my friends, the events I miss, my mum and dad and the support we had. Any major events that have happened here( engagement, promotions, visas) have been celebrated over the phone. It’s hard when in reality all you want is a hug from your parents and to have loved ones around you. Don’t get me wrong we have great friends and family here but sometimes it’s just not enough. Recently Mark went for surgery and when I returned home it was to an empty house. It’s probably they loneliest I have left. I had to call home and explain what happened and after all the calls I was alone again. Thank god for Whatsapp and viber and my friends at home keeping me sane. 

My nephew turns eleven this year and I spoke to him for the first time last week since Christmas. And oh how he has changed. His face is different, he’s looking like a boy now and then I remember I left when he was seven and I think about how much time with him i have missed out on. 

My life out here is lovely. I’m not complaining but sometimes you have days when you think just get on the plane and go home we’ll figure everything out when you get there and then other days I think about how much we have achieved in the small amount of time we have been here. I think with our temporary visa it was short term but for some reason being a permanent resident feels different, not bad different just different. My dad described it as bitter sweet and from their point of view their child is half way around the world and we have to settle for a face time call every Sunday. And likewise for my my family are 30 hours away and sometimes you just want to be able to call in and say hello.

Thankfully my parents are coming out in July and I am so looking forward to that. Any decision making can wait until then.

Watch this space! 



Christmas away from home. . Well this is going to be more difficult then I thought.

5 Dec

I love Christmas. I don’t know why but I love decorating the tree buying gifts for people and I love wrapping them. I normally end up wrapping the family’s gifts. This Christmas is my first one away from home and it’s weird. The hardest part is getting used to the weather. Normally we have the fire lit and it’s cold. This year we were in flip flops and had the aircon going.

Last Sunday we watched the late late toy show. Mark absolutely loves the show, I find it quite painful to watch. After that we agreed to put the tree up and listen to Xmas fm. I don’t know what came over me but all of a sudden I was crying my eyes out and refusing to put the tree up. I can only imagine what poor mark thought looking at me crying my eyes out hanging baubles on the Christmas tree.
Christmas was never a huge event in our house but I loved it because we were all at home. I think this is the first year I haven’t looked forward to Christmas, I’ll miss seeing the mountain of gifts for my nephew piled high and watching him rip through them like a maniac.
However the one thing I am looking forward to this year is the fact that this will be mine and marks first Christmas living together.

He enjoyed putting the tree together and took decorating it very seriously. It’s hard to believe we’re gone almost a year now, so we’ll make the most of an Aussie Xmas and who knows where we’ll be this time next year